In life, we all screw up from time to time. We all fall short of the goals we set for ourselves, we all say things we regret sometimes, we all take the easy way out from time to time, and we all give in to temptation at some point. It happens.
Unless you’re psychotic, there is usually some guilt involved when you know you’re wrong and you wish you had done better. Up to a certain point, this guilt is a good thing. Anytime we feel bad about something we have done, it is less likely that we’ll repeat it. Guilt leads to remorse, and remorse can really motivate us to improve.
But sometimes, we take our guilt too far. When I was in school, I knew a girl who was essentially a straight A student. On one mid-term report card, she got 2 As and 4 Bs. This was the mid-term, and the purpose of the report was to show her where she was since there was still time to get those Bs up to As. But when she saw 4 Bs, she lost it. She started crying uncontrollably, and she hid the report card from her parents. That opened up a whole `nother can of worms and her parents had to miss work to come in for a conference with her teachers and guidance counselor.
If we’re not careful, the guilt we feel can be worse than the original offense we’ve committed. When you do something wrong, you should feel bad about it and want to improve, but it’s also important to still love yourself through it. Even if others stop speaking to you for a while and hold you in low esteem, that’s when it’s especially important not to beat yourself up too much because others will handle that for you. Just get back on the right road and stay there. If you are genuinely good to yourself, soon enough, others will follow your lead.
We do a lot of talking about forgiving other people–allow yourself to forgive you.